Is your ex ignoring you?
Here’s how to get past the cold shoulder and get a second chance
Keep reading for the top three reasons your ex is ignoring you. You’ll also learn what to do to make sure they never ignore you again.
Here’s Why Your Ex Is Ignoring You
So why exactly is your ex ignoring you? Here are the most likely reasons. See if any of these ring true to you.
1. You did something they can’t forgive
If your relationship ended because of one big mistake you made, then chances are that’s the reason that they’re ignoring you. Whether it’s cheating, lying or some other betrayal, some things need more than just time to heal.
In this case, I do recommend going no contact but first you need to apologize.
This apology shouldn’t be long or drawn out. They just need to know that you recognize your mistake, that you’re sorry for hurting them, and that you’re taking steps to make it right.
This apology is extremely important because it’s the last form of contact you’re going to have for quite a long time.
This message, if successful, is your way of returning your ex to what is called an “emotional neutral” state.
This repairs some of the damage you’ve already done so when you enter no contact they stop thinking about you in a negative light and start missing you like crazy.
2. They’re over it
Look for a resigned tone when you do speak to them. Does it seem like they’ve made up their mind and are trying to move on?
If it’s only been a few weeks then chances are they’re just putting on a brave face but if it’s been one month or longer then it’s very possible that they’re just done with you and looking to put the past behind them.
I recommend that you begin No Contact as soon as possible. Constantly texting or calling your ex hasn’t worked so far, it’s not going to magically start working now.
In fact, every chance your ex gets to ignore your messages will strengthen their resolve to move on and leave you behind. Instead, give them the space they say they want.
Do not contact them or return any messages, phone calls, smoke signals…whatever, for at least one month. This time will allow them the chance to finally experience your absence and that will make them worry about losing you.
Think about it. This is exactly what they’re doing to you and isn’t it just making you want them more?
3. They’re trying to hide their feelings
This is the most common and most positive reason that your ex ignores you.
You’ll know this is the case if your ex seems mixed up about their feelings. Sometimes they contact you late at night and they seem upset or moody when you do speak.
And again, No Contact is the best move here.
Your ex is confused, hurt and above all else they’re looking for closure. That’s why the worst thing you can do is reach out and talk to them before doing no contact. If you do that then you’re offering them the chance to reject you once and for all and achieve the closure they’re looking for.
If that happens, it will be very difficult for you to have a future together.
Instead, stay strong. By maintaining no contact you’re letting them cool off without ever giving them a chance at closure.