Breakups are painful. That’s a fact of life.
But thankfully, there are some things you can do to speed up the healing process.
Follow these steps to get over your breakup and move on.
This information definitely applies to those who want their ex back, but it’s also relevant for anyone who just wants to move on and find someone new.
How To Get Over A Breakup & Move On
To begin with, I need to give you a bit of unfortunate news… and that’s that all breakups, regardless of the circumstances, are painful to some degree. There’s really no magic solution or quick fix that will make your heartache disappear overnight.
There are, however, a few things you can do to help suppress the post-breakup emotions and help you get over your ex as quickly as possible.
Tip 1. Accept The Reality Of Your Breakup
It’s not helpful or productive to deny the reality that you and your partner are no longer together, nor is it going to do you any good to try and talk things over with your ex.
Instead, try to own up to the situation you’re faced with and accept that your ex is no longer a focal point of your life. Accepting that can be painful, but now is the time to let out your emotions and come to grips with life as it stands now that your relationship has ended.
Don’t be afraid to do a bit of crying or spend some time alone in the first day after your breakup, especially if it helps you accept the reality of what’s happened. But do your very best to avoid having these emotional breakdowns while your ex is present.
In fact, during these early stages, it’s not a good idea to speak to your ex at all. In particular, avoid begging, pleading, or apologizing to your ex in an attempt to reverse their decision or in hopes of finding closure.
Many people will try to search for answers after a breakup—trying to learn what they did wrong or why their ex decided to end things—which is not the right thing to do, especially in the first few days after your breakup.
Instead, you and your ex should go your separate ways, and you should try to get control of your emotions and accept your reality without looking for answers or asking yourself what you might’ve done differently.
By the way, if you’re not ready to let go and you’re hoping to get back together with your ex, then now is a good time to try my free quiz tool. It offers personalized results so you know exactly how likely it is that you can get your ex back.
Tip 2. Remove The Reminders
Now, moving on… once you’ve come to grips with the reality of your situation, it’s time to remove all visible reminders of your ex. There’s nothing worse than being reminded of a painful memory every time you walk into your bedroom… which is why one of the most important ways to move on is to remove visible reminders around your house.
Take down photos, love notes, gifts from your ex, and any other items that might remind you of your past relationship and putting them in a box in your attic. Eventually, you can open them up again, but only when you’ve moved on completely. For now, you don’t want to be reminded of your ex.
You should also make sure that you hide or mute your ex’s status updates and notifications on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.
This will ensure that you’re not reminded of your ex and seeing what they’re up to every time you log in to your social media accounts. I don’t recommend deleting or blocking your ex completely — it’s usually enough just to hide their status updates or posts from your news feed.
If you’re really struggling with self-control and can’t seem to stop yourself from texting or calling your ex, I also recommend writing down your ex’s number on a piece of paper and giving it to a friend, and then deleting it from your phone completely.
You don’t need to contact your ex right now, and deleting their info from your contacts list is a good way to make sure you don’t do something dumb.
Tip 3. Keep Busy
With all reminders of your ex now removed from your life, the next step is to stay busy and keep yourself occupied at all times.
If you sit around the house doing nothing, you’re giving yourself a chance to think things over and bring undue heartache upon yourself. It’s best to keep busy with work, school, hobbies, or any other activities that keep your attention focused on something other than your ex.
Even watching a favorite TV show or playing video games will take your mind off the breakup for a while.
You should also lean on your friends and family. Try to avoid being alone whenever possible – go out with friends or spend time with family, even if it’s the last thing you feel like doing. Trust me when I say that being social is one of the single most effective ways of getting through a breakup.
It’s also important during all of this that you continue to maintain healthy habits.
Scientists have proven that vigorous exercise produces ‘feel good’ chemicals such as serotonin and dopamine in your brain.
That means that an intense 30-60 minute workout 3-4 times a week can help you avoid depression and feel better about life in general. It’s also important to maintain healthy eating habits and generally take care of yourself so that you don’t add any extra stresses on your body or mind.
Tip 4. Find Someone New
All of those things will help speed up the process and minimize your heartache, but I should also mention that the single best way to recover from a breakup is to find someone new.
Now, I realize that at this point you’re probably not really interested in going on dates or going out and meeting members of the opposite sex, but if you can force yourself to get out there and start dating again, you’ll be doing yourself a big favor.
You’ll find that the breakup emotions completely disappear once you find a new guy or girl to replace your ex. So, as soon as you can stomach it, get out there and start meeting people and going on dates.
Online dating is a great way to start, so consider signing up for a few free datings sites as soon as possible.
If you happen to talk with your ex (either on purpose or as a result of an accidental encounter), try to stay positive and keep things cordial.
Even if your breakup was nasty and you hate your ex’s guts, starting a fight or being mean to them to try and “get even” is not going to help you feel any better and usually just leads to more problems and drags out your recovery.
I recommend ignoring your ex completely and avoiding any non-essential contact with him or her until you’re fully over the breakup.
Finally, if you find yourself struggling with depression and heartache even after you’ve done all the things I’ve talked about, try to remember that every day that passes is another step towards a full recovery.
You may not feel any better today than you did a week ago, but I can promise that in a month or two you’ll look back and realize that each day you spent a bit less time thinking about your ex. Sooner than later, you’ll be back to normal and completely over your ex.
If you’re thinking of giving the relationship another try, consider picking up my Ex Factor Guide. It offers you proven techniques and strategies to completely change how your ex sees you and make them miss you more than you may have thought possible. And it’s so easy to follow that it works for just about everybody.