If you want your ex back, you need to make them regret the breakup.
Here are five effective things you can do to help change your ex’s mind about breaking up.
If you want a second chance with an ex, you need to be doing all five regularly.
If you’re new here, I’m Brad Browning AKA Breakup Brad. I’ve been YouTube’s #1 breakup coach since 2012 and I’m the author of the best-selling Ex Factor guide to getting your ex back.
For now, let’s get into the 5 ways you can change your ex’s mind about the breakup and get them back.
#1: Vanish from their life!
If you’ve read any of my stuff before, you know about the 30 Day No Contact strategy, you know you should be ignoring your ex for at least a few weeks or more after breaking up but have you done it yet? If you haven’t already applied a full period of No Contact, what are you waiting for?
A period of No Contact does a lot of things to cause your ex to have doubts about the decision to break up, and it even works if you’re the one who initiated your breakup. It makes your ex wonder why you’ve suddenly vanished. It forces them to feel the full repercussions of the breakup with no chance to slowly “wean themselves off you” over time and it creates a sense of mystery and intrigue that will make your ex want to talk to you and find out how and why you seem to be moving on so quickly. It also creates a sense of urgency for your ex and shatters their expectation that you’ll be around in case they decide breaking up was the wrong choice.
This technique also taps in to another element of human nature, which is the desire to want what you can’t have. I know this is a bit of a cliché, but several research studies have shown that both men and women are more attracted to members of the opposite sex that aren’t romantically available…. so, by disappearing from your ex’s life, you’re making yourself appear less ‘available’, which helps to subconsciously make your ex more attracted to you.
#2 – Tap Into The Human “FOMO” Tendency
Again, I’ve talked a bit about FOMO – or the Fear of Missing Out — in a few of my past videos. Basically, when it comes to using FOMO on your ex, it’s all about subtly hinting to your ex that you’re thriving since the breakup… and making them wish they were still with you so they could be taking part in the cool and interesting and fun stuff you’re up to.
It sounds a bit silly on the surface, so I’m sure some of you are pretty skeptical about how FOMO can help change your ex’s mind and make them take you back… but I promise you, in my 13 years of coaching people in situations just like yours… and I’ve helped over 130,000 clients get their ex back at this point… I’ve seen this strategy work time and time again. It’s especially useful when you use it along with all the other things I’ll cover in this video, including No Contact. And unlike several of the other tips I’m going to talk about shortly, you can do this one at the same time as you’re employing a period of No Contact.
To make your ex feel FOMO, you just need to do something as simple as posting a photo of you doing something fun or exciting on Instagram, knowing your ex is going to see the photo sooner or later. It’s best if you include friends or family in the picture, especially new friends your ex won’t have met… just subtly and casually use social media to humble brag about some really fun or social activities you’ve been up to since breaking up, and wait for your ex to see it and wish they were there with you.
You can also subtly drop subtle references to interesting stuff you’ve been doing since the breakup when speaking to your ex, or refer to new friends you’ve been hanging out with lately… really anything that you know your ex would be interested in or want to be doing with you can be suitable FOMO bait.
The key here, as with a lot of the techniques I teach for getting your ex back, is to be super subtle and under-the-radar with your attempts at creating FOMO… don’t do anything out of character that will set off alarm bells for your ex or make your true intentions obvious. You also probably want to be selective in how often you use this tactic — don’t start posting 3 or 4 photos or stories like this every day on your Instagram, but do go ahead and leverage FOMO here and there when you have a good opportunity and know your ex will likely see it.
#3 – Flirt & Build Sexual Tension!
This is one surefire way to make your ex question the breakup and have second thoughts about whether they really should’ve let you walk out of their life… and yet, it’s also something very few people actually do. But when you use this technique properly, it’s extremely effective, because it taps into the sexual chemistry you and your ex presumably had early in your time together.
So, how do you use flirting and sexual tension to help make your ex want you back? Well, when you get to the point where you’re talking to your ex regularly again — of course, this will only be the case when you finish employing No Contact — you need to focus on flirting and building sexual tension with your ex.
That means that when you hang out with your ex, you need to be showing them a good time and being upbeat and fun. There shouldn’t be any serious talk or drama or bickering… instead, you want your time together to be enjoyable for your ex, and you need to flirt with them like crazy as much as possible. It can be helpful to treat these in-person hangouts with your ex like they’re a first date with someone new.
The difference, though, is that you also have a shared history together that you can use to help crank up the sexual tension with your ex… by dropping subtle hints at some steamy sexual encounters you had previously with your ex, or by being playfully flirty by touching your ex and reminding them of the intimate connection you shared, you’ll be able to quickly create the kind of sexual tension that will make your ex desperate to get you back into their bed.
In short, ladies and gentlemen, don’t underestimate the power of flirting and creating physical attraction with your ex… they’re essential to making your ex want to take you back.
Again, this does come with a little disclaimer here, because you need to sort of read the situation and make sure you flirt and touch your ex at the right times, when they’re receptive to it and clearly playing along… if you try to flirt, bring up some steamy memories, drop sexual innuendos, etc when your ex isn’t responding positively or seems to be acting cold and disinterested… it’s time to back down and wait for a time when they’re more receptive. I’m not going to turn this video into a flirting tutorial, I think you know how to turn on your ex better than anyone else, but just make sure you pick your time and place and don’t try to force it.
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#4 – Use Jealousy to Your Advantage
By using what I call “Covert Jealousy”, you can make it appear to your ex that you’re being pursued by other guys or girls, and thus causing your ex to question whether it was a good idea to end the relationship with you. Now, you have to be careful and strategic when you’re using jealousy to re-build your ex’s attraction for you, because there is the potential for this tactic to backfire on you if you’re too obvious about it.
That being said, though, jealousy is extremely powerful and can absolutely help change your ex’s mind and make them want you back… for starters, as I just mentioned, humans have an ingrained tendency to want what we can’t have — and if your ex thinks you’re seeing someone new, that makes you seem ‘unavailable’, and thus more desirable in the eyes of your ex.
But equally importantly, by making it appear to your ex that you’re dating someone new or even just hanging out with members of the opposite sex, you’re also tapping into something called “pre-selection”. Pre-selection is a scientifically-proven phenomenon that essentially makes all humans subconsciously more attracted to people who are already being pursued by others. In other words, if I’m being chased by 10 gorgeous women who all want to date me, you’re going to naturally assume that I’m a great guy…. And that will make you more likely to find me attractive. Which I’m sure you already do, right?
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Now it’s time for you to get out there and start applying all 5 of these things to begin changing your ex’s mind about breaking up. If you play your cards correctly, act quickly, and commit to the process… you’ve probably still got a great chance at getting them back before it’s too late. I’ll be rooting for you.